Birthday 2017

Apr. 18th, 2017 11:57 pm
tara: (TOS: Uhura noble)
[personal profile] tara
'Twas my birthday yesterday. In my early thirties, I struggled quite a lot with getting older. It probably didn't help that so many of my good friends are significantly younger than me. Recently, however, I've begun to appreciate the benefits of being in my late thirties. The biggie is that I've suddenly gained the ability to stand up for myself. Apparently it's true that women become more assertive in their middle age! The other thing that I've noticed is that I'm starting to slide into the category of Too Old To Be Visible To Men, and I am a big fan of that.

The latter thing is boosted by my being overweight. It's funny, because I have struggled so much with accepting my weight for my entire life, even when I've been significantly underweight. Now that I'm properly overweight, I'm generally not too worried. I know that the extra weight is the side effect of me looking after myself. I can be stout and not-suicidal, or an average weight and wanting-to-die. When that's the choice, it seems a pretty easy one. And I will totally wear jeggings in public because my comfort is more important to me than strangers being horrified by me being plump and comfortable.

I have a wife who loves me the way I am; all other opinions are irrelevant.

Date: 2017-04-18 02:24 pm (UTC)
turps: (besties (spuzz))
From: [personal profile] turps
This is such a lovely post to read.

Also any strangers being horrified at seeing someone wearing jeggings should be pitied, and made to walk bare foot over lego for the rest of their lives.

Happy birthday again. Here's hoping the next year is full of lovely things.

Date: 2017-04-18 10:24 pm (UTC)
calissa: (Default)
From: [personal profile] calissa
Happy birthday, lovely. It's awesome to hear that you are settling into who you are.

Date: 2017-04-18 10:43 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] comedychick
Yes, the people who care about us matter so much more than strangers' opinions. This post makes me happy. :)

Date: 2017-04-25 05:35 pm (UTC)
From: [personal profile] comedychick

Definitely agree that mental health should be the priority. I got my mental health straight before I focused on decent weight loss for myself. But it can be challenging to maintain decent mental health while working on weight, too.

Date: 2017-04-19 06:55 am (UTC)
forgottensanity: Guacamole (Guacamole)
From: [personal profile] forgottensanity
Accepting yourself as you are is a wonderful birthday present to give to yourself. :-) I wish I was just as generous, but I fear I've turned into a frump after having a baby. My age seldom bothers me, though. I don't really feel as old as I actually am. Although I do often play the role of Grumpy Old Woman, but I've done that since my teen years, so I don't know how much that counts. :-)

HAPPY BIRTHDAY again by the way. I hope my present gets to you eventually - I'm almost certain that you'll like it. :-D

<3

Date: 2017-04-24 10:57 am (UTC)
notalwaysweak: Rainbow rose with words 'love as thou wilt' below in white lettering (Default)
From: [personal profile] notalwaysweak
I have a wife who loves me the way I am; all other opinions are irrelevant.

Atta girl :D

Date: 2017-04-25 05:21 pm (UTC)
xifeng: (Default)
From: [personal profile] xifeng
I am in a weird hinterland where, because I apparently look much younger than I actually am (hello dumb stupid round face and still-pretty-good skin), I am still visible to men (regardless of whether I want to be), but am too fat, masculine, and uninterested in having a family to be of interest to most women, which unfortunately is the sex that I'm trying to attract. Unfortunately, the fat is the only one of these I can do anything about, since the other two are basically bedrocks of my personality and won't change at this late date.

You should wear whatever you want and feel comfortable in, and that is a statement of fact not a kindly mouthed platitude. Life is too short to wear shit that makes you uncomfortable, physically or otherwise!

Also: I am v. glad that you are comfortable, and I am v. v. glad that you have a wife who loves you. ♥

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